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New Blogs July 2017
"I’m bored! I can’t be bothered!"
Anyone with kids, or who can remember being one, will be familiar with those sentiments. The rest of the summer stretches out in front of you and you have loads of stuff that you could do but somehow you lack the motivation to do it. What I have noticed however, is that it isn’t just kids who adopt this state of mind. In my therapy practice I have recently had a rush of adults feeling the same. They sit slumped in a chair telling of all the things that they have achieved (some really amazing stuff as well) and things that they have yet to do but they can’t be bothered to do it. This can be work related, sports related even holiday related where just going seems to be hard work.
So what do they need? Well, put bluntly, a kick up the backside usually does the trick but, being a therapist, I do not need to resort to big boot treatment when I have so many other tricks up my sleeve. Hypnotherapy is ideal for helping to find motivation and drive as it can be targeted to each individual and what their particular hang-up is so, for example; someone who is at the top of their game, the point that they have been aiming for only to find out that they are not as happy as they thought they would be on getting there, can be helped to look at a new directions and options; someone who is struggling to get to where they want to be in the first place can be encouraged to keep going.
Bach Flower Remedies are also excellent at rebalancing negative stuff - and I know some of you laugh at the thought of using anything to do with flowers but they work and they are good – Hornbeam for lethargy, Wild Rose for apathy, Elm for being overwhelmed and not knowing where to turn next, for example.
Whatever it is that you do to give yourself the kick up the backside, whether through accessing therapy or through having a word with yourself, be assured of one thing; if you are not going to make your life more exhilarating, then who is?
Enjoy the rest of the summer!
A wonderful demonstration of the benefits of Parks Inner Child Therapy...a client of mine who has gone through the PICT process felt confident and empowered enough to stand up for a cause she believes in both on radio and television - ' I would not have been able to do this without PICT and the work that we have done together!'
Very well done to her x
As a therapist, I have become used to the idea that January is a quiet month in terms of clients. The Christmas bills take precedence and the gap between paydays for many people does not do anything to ease this situation. With this in mind, I drew up a plan for myself for January that was largely based around projects that I had wanted to turn my attention to, allowing me to use the time to its best advantage.
Unusually for this time of year, my list of projects to complete remains just that, a plan of action to fill the time that I don’t seem to have. This is by no means a complaint as time spent working with clients is rewarding and enlivening and by far exceeds any ‘pleasure’ derived from huddling over PowerPoints, however, this is as I said unusual.
Pondering on this turn of events, I spoke to others working in the area of emotional therapies to see if they had noticed something similar. They confirmed that they had and that they too were much busier than was expected for this time of year.
So what is going on? It would seem that for many a new year is shaping up to really be the new start that we would like it to be, rather than a vague idea that begins at one minute past midnight on January 1st and has disappeared into the ether sometime fairly soon afterwards. There does seem to be more of a drive to make those changes and to stay the course with them. What is interesting for me, and others working with emotional well-being, is that more people seem open to the idea of getting help to make these changes a reality, maybe recognising for themselves that, although they may have what it takes to move their lives in a different direction, a little bit of help is nothing to shy away from and may actually tip the balance in their favour. And why not? If you have an ache or a pain you seek help for that through accessing the physio or the GP; you are likely to be kind to yourself and rest the bit that hurts. Well it’s the same for the mind and the emotions; if your emotional health needs a bit of assistance then it also needs a little kindness and a bit of T.L.C, or maybe a boost to strengthen your resolve.
I think that this signals a time where people are starting to value themselves more and are increasingly open to investing in their well-being in a more holistic way. Short term fixes are great but are just that and, maybe recent campaigns that have highlighted the benefits of having good mental health whilst sharing testimony from those who have struggled to keep their mental health from sinking into the realms of difficulty and despair, have got people thinking. We all have physical health; we all have mental health. We benefit most when both of these are robust enough to give us the best quality of life.
If you, or someone you know, would like some guidance and support in how you can boost your emotional wellbeing and add real value to the rest of this year and beyond, please get in touch for a chat and I will do my best to point you in the right direction.
I think that the image below provides a useful reminder for each of us that, what are often considered to be more negative emotions, have a positive side to them too
Beating the Winter Blues
The other night I sat at home with my feet up, drinking a cup of tea and idly watching the TV. I was thinking to myself how pleasant it was, how nice to be cosy inside, particularly as it was dark
outside, and how relaxed and sleepy I felt. It was 6:45 in the evening.
A few weeks ago at that time I would have still been in the garden, out for a walk or catching up with jobs around the house, feeling energetic and productive and here I was, sat on my backside on the sofa, sinking into a laziness that a few weeks ago would have been laughable.
Now I understand the concept of us ‘hibernating’ we are, after all, animals, and I do actually think that rolling with the seasons and giving ourselves time to recharge is a good thing, but I was not expecting to be immersed in Winter mode quite so soon because I know what comes next; struggling to get out of bed on the dark mornings and then lacking in motivation throughout the day. The winter is going to seem a long job if that is how it goes!
So, what to do about it? Firstly I think I need to take care of the basics; make sure I eat well, having plenty of fruit and veg, ‘proper’ food rather than the processed variety, plenty of water to drink. I need to make sure that I keep up the exercise , not that I’m a great one for the gym but there are things I can do even if the extent of that is taking things up the stairs when I have finished with them, rather than piling them on the bottom step and taking everything up together. I could also make sure that I haul myself of the sofa every hour to go and do something or just to walk around a little.
But I am a therapist so there must be something I can do for myself. ..Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) would help because I can use these to help rid myself of the Winter blues and also to boost my energy levels. I can use Hypnotherapy to help boost my motivation, and visualisation skills to recreate those feelings that I am missing from the Summer. Bach Flower Remedies will help me with many of these things by giving me back my sense of balance.
So that is my plan of action to help me to get through the next few months until we start to look once again towards the warmer months. Well, if I am going to be sat down for longer I may as well use that time wisely. What will you be doing to get through the Winter months?